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Hope for the One Embracing Her Future

Seven.

That’s the average number of times it takes to leave commercial sexual exploitation. Embracing a future beyond the sex industry is a complex process often filled with layers of barriers to overcome. It’s a cyclical process, not a linear one, illustrated in the following graphic from Boston University.

As with leaving a domestic violence situation or recovering from substance addiction, transitioning out of sexual exploitation is so rarely a once and done task. Triggers and retraumatization can easily send a woman back to what she is familiar with, even when the familiar is painful. Barriers of adjusting to different work environments, finding a whole new community, meeting educational needs, and so much more - all at once - can be overwhelming and cause a kind of relapse back into the industry.

That’s why we at SSD offer a community of love and hope, erasing lines of separation to provide support every step of the way. To be a cheerleader as barriers arise. To give unconditional love when relapse comes. To brainstorm and dream together when a woman is ready to take brave steps and embrace her future.

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